Relationship Counseling
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” Rumi
It is difficult to go through life alone. We all need and want a partner who 'has our back' because they love and understand us. Two people can know a loyalty found in no other type of relationship. At the heart of all relationships, each person needs to know that they matter. In a relationship there is a sense of belonging that comes from working toward goals shared with another.
Understanding ourselves and what gets evoked in a relationship can sometimes be a mystery. Early in life we acquire certain relationship patterns through our earliest attachments and we repeat them, unknowingly, throughout our lives. When we are in relationship, these patterns can be repeated. Because of these old patterns, expectations and desires become more active and alive. In integrative relational therapy we will explore in a safe, supportive and respectful environment your power of relating and beliefs about yourself and your partner.
I will help you increase connectedness, resolve conflict, take personal responsibility, deepen intimacy and work through stages of life challenges. I will assist you in finding the language and motivation to resolve financial and sexual difficulties. I will help you move from a place of “couple burnout” where it feels as if there is nothing but conflict and tension to a place of mutuality and to increased love and sense of purpose.
I am an Integrative Couple’s Therapist which means I draw on various theoretical positions; such as Psychoanalytic couples therapy (which incorporates attachment theory, emotionally focused and internal family systems), Gottman and Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy (using neurobiology and the science of intimate relationships) and bringing these together into a coherent and practical treatment. The goal being to align therapeutic techniques that are proven to be effective to your specific relational issue and recognizing that there is no single method that is superior for each and every situation.
I will assist you in finding what Brene Brown refers as “The energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgement; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
There are options when doing teletherapy as a couple. You can either choose to meet together on one screen or on separate screens, in the same room or different locations. We will still meet all together but if it is more comfortable to have distance, that can be arranged.
